I was going to write an article about the benefits of the masturbation while making love. Only, when you put it like that, it sounds really daft. I’m not here to tell you what you should do with your paws or your genitals.
If you want a version with some real eroticism and writing talent in it, go and read this very beautiful article by R. about it on their blog “Blood, sex and breast milk”.
Here, I’ll just coldly go through the technical aspects, what it can bring, and what to avoid. It’s just a personal point of view, based solely on my humble experience.
But… why are you doing that?
Masturbation while making love is lovely for the pussy
No need to spell it out: masturbating is physically pleasurable, and masturbating alongside your partner’s caresses is even more pleasurable.
It’s beautiful: someone who is orgasming
If an orgasm doesn’t automatically bring a shower of sparkles in your eyes and an outpouring of transcendent beauty, as some idealisations intended to put you at ease try to make you swallow, it’s still pleasant to watch *.
(*) : Unless you like dressing like that.
You’re not necessarily gorgeous when you orgasm, but the spectacle is always worth a watch. If that weren’t the case, sites like Beautiful Agony wouldn’t work, and nobody would demand real orgasms in porn.
And feeling sexy and pleasant to look at takes the pressure off and is flattering to the ego. The ego — it’s always good to flatter it.
The free bonus: it’s good for the rapport
Noticing that someone feels confident enough to show you what people usually hide in a corner of their privacy (unless you are the man in the raincoat) is flattering.
It can, on top of that, allow you to show and teach the other person the ultimate techniques that bring you to the peak (When I use this expression, I don’t know why, I always picture a monkey).
How to masturbate while making love?
Position and equipment
It’s very simple. You just need to follow the procedure below :
- Lean against a wall.
- Raise your leg so that your foot is at the height of your ear.
- Make circles with your arms.
- Repeat the process with a salad (freshly washed) balanced on your head.
Oh no, shit, I made a mistake. That was the technique for miming the tripod snail from Beltègeuse that performs a seduction dance.
Let’s start again. You take your fingers or a sex toy, and you fondle yourself in the same way as when you do it alone **. All while doing the filthy little lewd things you usually get up to with your partner.
(**) You can, of course, avoid any potential grimaces, grunts or squeals that you keep telling yourself you’d be really ashamed of if they happened in front of a witness. Unless you prefer not to avoid them.
However, be careful not to combine self-fondling with a position that’s too tricky. Otherwise, one less hand to keep your balance, and you’ll sprawl. Same for practices that require all your attention. It’s up to you to judge what needs all your attention and what you can manage without difficulty with at least one paw busy.
Masturbation while making love, a practice to tailor to your anatomy
Masturbation while making love won’t be practised in the same way whether you’re male or female.
If you have a pussy, you can fiddle with it pretty much any time during the act. And if you orgasm, in any case, afterwards, it’s back on again. If you have a penis, you have a few timing and dosage constraints, since your orgasm usually marks the end of the fun.
Mind the interpretation
It’s important to be clear about your intentions: if you’re feeling your penis or clit during your antics (well, ‘antics’ makes me think of veal offal…), it’s to enhance a situation that excites you and that you enjoy. And certainly not to pass the time because you’re really bored. A confusion on this point can have unwelcome consequences for your partner’s ego.
If, when it happens that you’re really bored (if it ever happens), you usually get dressed and suggest Scrabble, there’s no risk of misunderstanding as to your enthusiasm. If you’re not that categorical, a simple verbal explanation, before, during or after, is enough to clarify the issue.
A must-have in the little sex guide for zombies
Self-fondling can, among other things, be very handy for dealing with sex in HS mode. Still wanting to do things with your genitals and your partner’s when you’re mega sleepy and not a single muscle answers the call, it happens. Only, in those cases, you’re rarely up for acrobatic feats or endurance records.
This is where masturbation is your friend. There’s nothing like it to give, without effort, the copulation of two dying octopuses an undeniable efficiency.
Conclusion
If you like masturbating (which is still the case for quite a lot of people) and if you feel comfortable with your partner, masturbation while making love when you feel like it is pleasant, and it requires no techniques or existential questioning. So, to your paws!
